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The Bullies to Buddies mission is to teach people how to stop being bullied on their own, without anyone's help and without getting anyone in trouble. We do it by teaching the practical application of the Golden Rule, the universally accepted formula for creating harmony between people.

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It is impossible to create peace by treating people like enemies. The Golden Rule requires us to treat people like friends even when they treat us like enemies.

For years, the modern world has been trying to reduce bullying through a legal/law enforcement approach. This requires society to protect us from, apprehend, and punish/rehabilitate those who treat us in ways we don't like. Unfortunately, as research and plain experience show, this approach hasn't worked and has lead to bullying being called an "epidemic" by anti-bullying experts and organizations.

WHAT IS THE BULLIES TO BUDDIES...

Israel C. (Izzy) Kalman, MS Nationally Certified School Psychologist

EDUCATION

Master of Science in Clinical Psychology, 1978, Hahnemann Medical College and Hospital Philadelphia, PA
Bachelor of Science in Psychology, 1974, The College of the City of New York, New York, NY

CERTIFICATION

Nationally Certified School Psychologist
New York State Certified School Psychologist
New York City Licensed Bilingual School Psychologist

WORK EXPERIENCE

Seminar Instructor, Cross Country University, 2002 - Present
Online Instructor, The Professional Learning Board, 2010 - Present
Director/Instructor, Bullies to Buddies, 2001 - Present
School Psychologist, New York City Board of Education, 1988-2002
School Psychologist/ Counselor, Ministry of Education, Israel, 1978-1988
Psychotherapist, Private Practice, 1985-Present
Mentor...

"Thank you for teaching me techniques to teach students how not to be victims. The emphasis on 'Victim-Proof' rather 'Bully-Proof' makes sense. I plan to utilize the role plays in my school which has 750 students in grades 3, 4, and 5." —Counselor, Mobile, Alabama

“This workshop was useful in demonstrating specific strategies to help clients with anger problems. It will be more effective in disarming angry clients.” – Roy Crouse, Psychologist, Roanoke, Virginia (1.07.13)

“Excellent presentation on the subject of anger. Presenter was interesting and delivered the best presentation on anger that I have witnessed. He kept my interest! Thank you for providing a different way of looking at anger and how to resolve it. I am so glad I did not miss this training.” – Mildred Chinaka, Social Worker, Winston-Salem, North Carolina (1.08.13)

“Brilliantly constructed. Effectively communicated. Provocative and stimulating. Loved the integration of multiple systems of thought. Supports profound understanding of human behavior.” – Penny Westhuizen, Counselor, Dallas, Texas (2.05.13)

“This is the best seminar I’ve attended.” – Polina Stolyarova, Physician, Atlantic City, New Jersey (2.18.13)

“The promotional brochure promised profound professional training and the presenter delivered! This seminar was well worth my personal funds; time and money well spent. I look forward to reading the manual in more depth.” – Leslie Rohrer, Social Worker/Counselor/Educator, Miami, Florida (May 14, 2012)

“So simple, so succinctly presented, so fundamentally true! Role play quite entertaining and illustrative of concepts and ‘rule’ presented.” – Danette Moore, Counselor, Shreveport, Louisiana (2.04.13)

“An insightful fresh look at anger and bullying. Captured what really needs to happen to successfully address bullying in schools and life.” – Cynthia Reinhardt, Educator/Counselor, Winston-Salem, North Carolina (1.08.13)

“I loved the seminar. It was very good and helpful for both my job and personal life.” – Alvin Braddy, Nurse, Columbus, Ohio (10.15.12)

“So helpful – I’ve heard Izzy before – I have used it and found it helpful for clients. Come back often. I will go to all classes Izzy teaches.” – Patrick Mullen, Counselor, Kennewick, Washington (6.04.12)

“Izzy is THE BEST! I feel this seminar is based on the truth. It is the best workshop I’ve ever been to! It’s a bullshit free seminar that is not removed from life, but integrated to it. It gets my highest recommendation.” – Susan Boulden, Nurse, Austin, Texas

“It was fun. Thanks. I learned a bunch!” – Janet Onesian, Social Worker, Toledo, Ohio (12.19.12)

“Even though I took this seminar for CEU points I was thrilled Izzy was the speaker. I have heard him before and knew the seminar would be both worthwhile and informative. I was able to learn more valuable information that pertains to my job.” – Cathy Meadors, Psychologist, Roanoke, Virginia (1.07.13)

“Very good demonstration regarding how to diffuse anger. I picked up very good techniques to use in therapy.” – Gregory Vaughan, Psychologist/Social Worker, Lansing, Michigan (12.17.12)

“Izzy is the second coming of Albert Ellis – with the singing but without the cursing. He’s professional and sincere in wanting to help others. We’ll try our best to apply these lessons with our staff and students.” – James Wallace, Psychologist/Educator, Syracuse, New York

“Mr. Kalman rocks! His presentation and concepts are clear, persuasive and applicable to a myriad of life situations where anger is present. I have used his approach for several years and thoroughly enjoyed his presentation and has greatly deepened my applications.” – Roger Miller, Social Worker/Counselor/Juvenile Probation Officer, San Antonio, Texas (3.14.13)

“Workshop was effective in helping me build new skills and refresh some old ones. Izzy’s presentation is good and he has a good balance between lecture/story telling and role-play.” – Raymond Hart, Counselor/Marriage and Family Therapist, Ontario, California (11.28.12)

“I was able to take information from this workshop to use with my clients tomorrow.” – Denise Witzansky, Counselor, Tulsa, Oklahoma (1.23.13)

“Loved seminar! Instructor was fabulous. Very engaging and made the information real useful with his examples. Also enjoy the materials–nice to take home.” – Teri Saurer, Social Worker, Charlotte, North Carolina (1.09.13)

“Extremely informative and entertaining strategies. Seems like they could be implemented effectively.” – Sharon Wernli, Psychologist, San Antonio, Texas (2.16.12)

“I learned a lot of useful information to bring to my anger management group. This is one of the best seminars I have attended. Role plays were very useful.” – Kerry Mensah, Social Worker, Boston, Massachusetts (4.25.13)

“Israel Kalman was fantastic! He was very effective at teaching all material an has a great personality. I learned so much.” – Sharon Rosenzweig, Social Worker, Manhattan, New York (3.06.13)

“Excellent, no-nonsense presentation. Kalman knows his material inside out and is compelling and entertaining.” – Kate Hammon, Social Worker, Manhattan, New York (3.06.13)

“Very informative, fun, entertaining. An exciting seminar.” – Linda Avery, Social Worker, Charlotte, North Carolina (1.09.13)

“Izzy’s message is right on and needs to get out to all therapists, educators, and other human service personnel. I will use ‘the game’ in my therapy with couples and our workshops on marriage prep. This may be the best one day workshop I have attended in 40 years of being a mental health professional. Thanks, Izzy.” Jim Werner, Counselor, St. Cloud, Minnesota

“Very relevant to my population–adults charged with alcohol-drug related offenses and ones charged with anger management issues.” – Dr. Janice Pemberton, Counselor/Educator, Detroit, Michigan (12.20.12)

“Izzy presented anger control in a clear and fun way. He is extremely funny and makes the presentation very exciting! Izzy is knowledgeable in the field of psychology.” – Amanda Garcia, Educator/Behavior Consultant, East Brunswick, New Jersey (2.20.13)

“Finally, instructions that are results-oriented for children and adults–a blessing to our profession!” – John Deloache, Counselor, Columbia, South Carolina (1.10.13)

“Fully enjoyable, good use of humor.” – Allethina Harker, Social Worker, Cedar Rapids, Iowa (9.10.12)

“Outstanding! Izzy Kalman’s material is wonderful! Extremely refreshing! The best CEU I’ve been to in a long time. Thank you. I will be recommending this seminar to my entire staff and to other professionals.” – Annette Ladd, East Side Director and Licensed Professional Counselor, Renewal Centers, Tucson, Arizona

“Very nice, elegant solution to helping adults and children cope with anger and take full responsibility for their own actions.” – Cynthia Civitano, Toms River, New Jersey (2.19.13)

“Very applicable to many situations. Not only ‘said’ how to, but showed with very real role plays. Great skill building trainings for therapists with clients we work with.” – Donna Croniser, Counselor/Marriage and Family Therapist/Play Therapist, Toledo, Ohio (12.19.12)

“A problem I was having with a person who plays in a band with me was solved within the first hour of the seminar. I knew then that the seminar was worth the time and money. Great instructor! Very interesting topic. Thank you.” – Beverly Webb, Marriage and Family Therapist, Social Worker, Saginaw, Michigan (12.05.12)

“This is a very important seminar. The speaker raised issues we all need to be aware of. He helped us view conditions and circumstances differently. We increased our understanding of anger through his unique perspectives and messages. We are now able to distance ourselves from angry remarks of others in order to help our relationships. We see that it can be done with less effort. An astonishingly wonderful experience!!!” – N.H., Psychologist, Sherman Oaks, California (11.15.12)

“I have been to this seminar three times and learn something new each time. It is practical and useable.” – Jeffrey Gray, Clergy, Columbus, Ohio (10.15.12)

“The techniques developed by Mr. Kalman are practical and easy to use, which make them applicable to a large segment of my client population. This program really helps in terms of helping gain insight into the lack of effectiveness of current strategies to deal with anger and provides them with motivation to want to change their behaviors. Both are essential to work in this area.” – R.H., Psychologist, Columbia, South Carolina (1.10.13)

“This was a very thought provoking seminar that made me question my beliefs, in a positive way. I am looking forward to using this material in my personal and professional life.” – Lisa Young, Counselor/Social Worker, Spokane, Washington (6.05.12)

“Izzy did a great job of making complex issues and concepts seem simple – and provide excellent practical resources for dealing with anger. He presents in a style that seems to channel Woody Allen and Albert Ellis – providing wisdom and humor in his approach.” – Alan Reitman, Counselor, Ft. Lauderdale, Florida

“Very well presented–excellent use of real world examples to illustrate deeper concepts. Good pacing, good data density. My time very well spent! – 35 years in practice. Thank you for no Power Point. Book best!” – David Hall, Counselor/Social Worker/Marriage and Family Therapist, Saginaw, Michigan (12.05.12)

“Informative, funny, well presented seminar with practical application to use in our work!” – Diana Marinaro, Social Worker, Toms River, New Jersey (2.19.13)

“Izzy was dynamic in his presentation and refreshingly honest. The practical applications from his seminar, website, and materials would be a great resource for the school setting. I will be using his role playing techniques in my anger management groups.” – Lora Scammacca, Counselor/Educator, East Brunswick, New Jersey (2.20.13)

“Kalman was spectacular! This information he shares is essential!! Thank you!” – Melanie Murphy, Social Worker, Manhattan, New York (2.29.12)

“This had to be the best seminar I attended in years!” – Lawrence Cistola, Social Worker, White Plains, New York (3.07.13)

“This presentation should be mandatory for all schools and its wisdom implemented!” – Lee Friedman, Social Worker, Queens, New York (2.28.12)

“Loved it! Izzy was very entertaining as well as informative. This is the best continuing education seminar I’ve ever been to. I liked the role playing and Izzy’s willingness to take on any situation thrown at him by the audience.” – Angela Gilbert, Licensed Psychological Examiner, Little Rock, Arkansas

“A must see for school administrators, legislators, teachers/guidance counselors, and parents (at all school/college levels).” - Daniel Kulzer, Social Worker, Albany, New York (3.22.12)

“This conference was very helpful to me personally and professionally. The materials and role play helped illustrate the points. I am so glad I came to this.” – K.L., Educator, Kennewick, Washington (6.04.12)

“Fun…but also informative and easy to apply with clients.” – Timothy Morris, Social Worker, Austin, Texas (3.13.13)

“This is my 2nd time to attend a seminar with Mr. Kalman (Izzy). I thought the 1st time was good, but this time was even better!! Can’t wait to use the ‘Golden Rule’ with my clients! Thanks!” – Stacy Worthington-Chism, Social Worker, Memphis, Tennessee (2.07.13)

“Wonderful balance and energy–thank you for your realness! Refreshing to hear truth and be able to see it in action. Want to actually apply what you learned, this is the seminar to take! Get anger free!” – Jewelya Ianniciello, Social Worker, Seattle, Washington (6.07.12)

“Practical application and examples of them were wonderful. I will be using these tools in life and with my clients. Great seminar!” – Kimberly McNees, Counselor, Spokane, Washington (6.05.12)

Our Mission

WHAT IS THE BULLIES TO BUDDIES...

Israel C. (Izzy) Kalman, MS Nationally Certified School Psychologist

EDUCATION

CERTIFICATION

WORK EXPERIENCE

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