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My name is Israel C. "Izzy" Kalman. I have been working as a school psychologist and psychotherapist since 1978. For over two decades, I've been intensively helping victims of bullying, initially children and after a few years, adults as well, for I realized that the same principles apply to interpersonal problems throughout the lifetime. More recently, I have been teaching these methods to mental health professionals and educators primarily throughout the United States and Canada. The methods I have developed I believe are the quickest, easiest, and most natural that exist, and are consistent with all major schools of psychology, philosophy and religion.

I had been an expert in bullying for over a decade without realizing it because I had never thought of the behaviors I was dealing with as "bullying." Bullying had been an obscure field within psychology that few mental health professionals ever studied. The field came to prominence because of the Columbine...

Israel C. (Izzy) Kalman, MS Nationally Certified School Psychologist

EDUCATION

Master of Science in Clinical Psychology, 1978, Hahnemann Medical College and Hospital Philadelphia, PA
Bachelor of Science in Psychology, 1974, The College of the City of New York, New York, NY

CERTIFICATION

Nationally Certified School Psychologist, New York State Certified School Psychologist, New York City Licensed Bilingual School Psychologist

WORK EXPERIENCE

Seminar Instructor, Cross Country University, 2002 - Present
Online Instructor, The Professional Learning Board, 2010 - Present
Director/Instructor, Bullies to Buddies, 2001 - Present
School Psychologist, New York City Board of Education, 1988-2002
School Psychologist/ Counselor, Ministry of Education, Israel, 1978-1988
Psychotherapist, Private Practice, 1985-Present
Mentor, Psychologists-In-Training...

Our Mission

Bullies2Buddies.com is dedicated to reducing bullying and aggression by teaching wisdom, for wisdom is the solution to life's problems.

For years, the modern world has been trying to reduce bullying through a legal/law enforcement approach. This requires society to protect us from, apprehend, and punish those who bully us. Unfortunately, as research and plain experience show, this approach hasn't worked and even leads to an intensification of the bullying problem.

WHAT IS THE BULLIES TO BUDDIES PHILOSOPHY?

The only place where everyone is always nice to each other is Heaven. As long as we are alive, we are going to encounter people who are mean to us and we need to learn to deal with them. If we rely upon outside authorities to stop others from bullying us, we are going to stay victims for a long time. However, when we possess the wisdom to deal with bullying, the problem disappears almost...

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"Thank you for teaching me techniques to teach students how not to be victims. The emphasis on 'Victim-Proof' rather 'Bully-Proof' makes sense. I plan to utilize the role plays in my school which has 750 students in grades 3, 4, and 5." —Counselor, Mobile, Alabama

“Izzy is THE BEST! I feel this seminar is based on the truth. It is the best workshop I’ve ever been to! It’s a bullshit free seminar that is not removed from life, but integrated to it. It gets my highest recommendation.” – Susan Boulden, Nurse, Austin, Texas

“Izzy is the second coming of Albert Ellis – with the singing but without the cursing. He’s professional and sincere in wanting to help others. We’ll try our best to apply these lessons with our staff and students.” – James Wallace, Psychologist/Educator, Syracuse, New York

“It’s like having Woody Allen teach a seminar! Izzy was funny and had such interesting, valid, and non-conventional ways to control anger. I truly feel that I have received effective information that I can use in both my professional and personal environments. Thank you!” – Amy Cinkovich, Case Manager/Service Coordiator, State of Nevada, Reno, Nevada

“Wish I had this seminar 15 years ago (when my kids were babies). (Wish I’d had this seminar 20 years ago – when I was a teacher.) One of the best seminars I’ve ever been to – the basic premises are valid and well-communicated.” – Mary Zedalis, Coder/Office Manager, Roanoke, Virginia

“By far the best seminar I’ve ever attended! I wish I would have been taught these things much earlier in my career. I look forward to sharing the information with my coworkers; although I know I will not be able to be nearly as effective. I can finally say, ‘It was worth the money!’ Great presenter, very relevant information” – Steve Weaver, Social Worker, Tampa, Florida

“Loved it! Izzy was very entertaining as well as informative. This is the best continuing education seminar I’ve ever been to. I liked the role playing and Izzy’s willingness to take on any situation thrown at him by the audience.” – Angela Gilbert, Licensed Psychological Examiner, Little Rock, Arkansas

“So refreshing and amazing to go to a seminar that actually helps to have a solution to the problem of bullying and not just the definition of a bully or how to identify a bully.” – Mary Williams, Counselor, San Antonio, Texas (2.16.12)

“Woody Allen and Albert Ellis all in one… practical, real, useful, and fun!” – Sharon Evans, Psychologist/Counselor, Tallahassee, Florida

“Izzy did a great job of making complex issues and concepts seem simple – and provide excellent practical resources for dealing with anger. He presents in a style that seems to channel Woody Allen and Albert Ellis – providing wisdom and humor in his approach.” – Alan Reitman, Counselor, Ft. Lauderdale, Florida

“This is the best workshop I’ve been to in years! Thanks for giving me a new way to look at and explain anger. I will use it right away – both in my personal and professional life. I really loved the role-playing. It’s so tangible – I can take it back to work tomorrow to use and teach to teachers, principal as well as students.” – Trudy Kent, Counselor, Boise, Idaho

“Extremely informative and entertaining strategies. Seems like they could be implemented effectively.” – Sharon Wernli, Psychologist, San Antonio, Texas (2.16.12)

“I went to your seminar about 2 years ago. I have been using your techniques with mild & moderate mentally retarded men. It has worked wonderfully.” - Randal Adair, M.Ed.

“This is the best professional seminar I have attended. I’m leaving with great tools to use with children in the social skills group I facilitate. Additionally, these tools and perspectives are valuable to use in other areas of my life. Thank you for the refreshing, innovative way of looking at this issue.” – June Matthews, Social Worker, Orlando, Florida

“A must see for school administrators, legislators, teachers/guidance counselors, and parents (at all school/college levels).” - Daniel Kulzer, Social Worker, Albany, New York (3.22.12)

“Outstanding! Izzy Kalman’s material is wonderful! Extremely refreshing! The best CEU I’ve been to in a long time. Thank you. I will be recommending this seminar to my entire staff and to other professionals.” – Annette Ladd, East Side Director and Licensed Professional Counselor, Renewal Centers, Tucson, Arizona

“Izzy’s message is right on and needs to get out to all therapists, educators, and other human service personnel. I will use ‘the game’ in my therapy with couples and our workshops on marriage prep. This may be the best one day workshop I have attended in 40 years of being a mental health professional. Thanks, Izzy.” Jim Werner, Counselor, St. Cloud, Minnesota

“Izzy’s da bomb. His perspective on civilization was eye-opening. We really have fostered a dependent world with little or no personal responsibility for our own behavior. It is always someone else’s fault.” – Jeremy Pischke, Counselor/Case Manager, Springfield, Missouri